On television and in the movies, the role of the "bully" is often played by an oafish boy who targets undersized victims for physical abuse and associated acts of personal terrorism. But in many modern American schools, young girls are engaging in a devious form of emotional cruelty known as "relational aggression."
According to the Ophelia Project - a national nonprofit organization that is dedicated to the establishment of safe social climates in America's schools and workplaces - relational aggression is defined as "behavior that is intended to harm someone by damaging or manipulating his or her relationships with others."
The Ophelia Project divides this type of aggression into two distinct types of behaviors:
- Proactive behaviors are a means for achieving a goal (e.g., a girl excludes someone to maintain her own social status). Example: A girl is mad at another girl for being "more popular" so she spreads a sexual rumor about her to ruin her reputation.
- Reactive relational aggression is a defensive response to provocation with intent to retaliate. Example: A child is being teased repeatedly in school and then becomes a teaser himself for protection.
This type of bullying is most prevalent among girls in grades five through eight, though it is not unheard of for younger and older students to engage in acts of relational aggression.
Though the majority of research into bullying focuses on male perpetrators, bullying by girls has come under increased scrutiny in recent years, fueled in part by a few high-profile cases in which young victims either committed suicide or endured particularly horrific acts of mental and physical abuse.
In addition to raising awareness about relational aggression, the Ophelia Project provides educational resources and conducts conferences and training to create environments "where people are protected, respected, encouraged and held accountable for their actions [and which foster] inclusion, healthy relationships and civility."